What do we mean by Truthful Living?  In his message at a youth conference in Delhi, Baba Hardev Singh Ji offered an insight into this topic in a manner that will resonate and feel relevant for people of all ages.  Speaking clearly and concisely, Babaji made it apparent what he wished from each of us, if we are to live a life of truth.

He explained that we are to properly understand the essence and the principles of the Sant Nirankari Mission. Babaji asked that we make use the Knowledge of God, seeing it as the true basis of our life. Those who understand the Knowledge wish to strengthen their connection with it. 

Babaji explained that the Mission is really a call to Oneness.  In other words, it is a teaching for brotherhood, love, tolerance and non-violence.  I feel Babaji was requesting our participation in spreading this message, so that it could reach every corner of the world.

Speaking further, Baba ji used the analogy of “walls” and “bridges”. He emphasised the importance of building bridges of understanding and cooperation between human beings, whilst being weary of the harmfulness created by walls of separation, prejudice and ignorance. Babaji made it abundantly clear that where there are walls between us, these are man-made barriers – divisions we have made which lead to growing distances from one another. These barriers have been formed from man’s ego, ignorance and desire for one-upmanship.

During a subsequent youth conference in Calgary, Canada, Baba ji spoke to an international assembly of youth members of the Mission.  The very theme of this conference was “…a world without walls”. In this meeting, Babaji described the manner in which walls are creating havoc with our world.  He inspired all present to use our efforts to pull down the walls and build bridges.  Babaji helped me understand that these bridges are necessary to establish peace and engender a sense of the global family of humankind. By coming closer to each other, irrespective of differences in diet, dress, nationality and culture, Babaji envisioned the growth of Oneness and Humanness.   

Babaji’s message was for the betterment of the whole of mankind, not just a sub-class or select few. Today, we are witnessing so much violence, where innocent blood is being shed. We need Babaji’s wisdom more than ever before. We need to be guided by the truth.  With the Knowledge of God as our foundation, it becomes possible to build towering examples of truthful and sincere living.

Let us consider that whenever we behave erratically, rudely or discriminate against the rights of others, we have lost sight of truth and truthful living.  Then even small things become big issues.  Being slowed down by 1-2 minutes on our journey to work becomes a catalyst for some disproportionate act of road rage. If minor things grate and irritate us, how will we even begin to tackle the global conflicts that are decimating our planet? Whenever we become intolerant, we are not being guided by knowledge and wisdom – this becomes a source of pain and troubles. The analogy Baba ji used to illustrate this state of affairs, was that of tooth decay, or as he playfully put it, “TRUTH DECAY”. 

When I was younger, I wanted to become a teacher. I soon realised that before I could share any knowledge with others, I would have to become a learner first of all. I had to go to school to acquire the requisite knowledge and tools. For part of my studies, I was told I would need to engage in an original research thesis, with which to add to existing knowledge and deepen my own understanding of any chosen subject. Along the way, I knew I would have to face the challenge of exams. I made a start, but after my first year of degree level education, I gave up. I simply found it too tough and never reached my desired outcome. 

It is very similar on the spiritual path.  To become a true devotee, there are instances in life when we are faced with tough times – challenges and tests.  We have to apply our knowledge, and discover it’s depths.  There is the laboratory of the world, and the tutorial group we find in Sangat, where fellow learners on the path support and inspire us. Using these tools and practices, we can build our faith and stay the course. The Mission becomes a school for our soul, teaching us how to live a saintly and noble life. However, if we do not use what we are taught or give due attention to the knowledge being shared, there is no application of the principles within our daily life.  We may find it too hard or fail to fully appreciate the real value of the teachings and opportunity.

In listening to a discourse by Mata Sawinder Hardev ji, the very same message is emphasised.  Mataji shared that having the Gyan (Knowledge of God) is not enough; after having the Gyan it is important for us to live as it teaches. But how do we do that? What I have realised through Sangat, is that we have to surrender to God and have complete faith in His work. I learned from another discourse by Mata Sawinder ji, that change is possible.  She spoke of a small caterpillar, which is capable of transforming into a beautiful butterfly. It is only able to metamorphosise if it can let go of its body, fearlessly moving with whatever is coming to pass.  This is the kind of surrender and faith we all need, if we are to transform into saintly beings and lead a truthful life. 

As I conclude, I recall my attempt to climb Mount Batur in Bali.  Standing at an imposing height over 2,000 feet, I set off with a small group during the early morning hours with the objective of seeing the sunrise at the peak. Using a small flashlight we began our ascent, with one tour guide at the front of the group and one behind. About an hour in, I began to struggle to keep up with the group, as the path was becoming pretty steep. Gradually, I fell to the back. The tour guide at the rear was very attentive to my struggles. As I was losing faith in myself and thinking I couldn’t continue, I almost felt ready to give up. What saved me was my guide, who kept faith in me.  He walked at my pace, and stayed with me. He encouraged me to take my time, sometimes modelling where to place my foot and at other times pulling me up as required. With his support and guidance, I managed to reach the peak. I climbed a mountain and saw the sunrise.  The sight was breath-taking. 

Living a truthful life, can feel like a monumental task.  The path can tough, and our stamina may desert us. We may also lose faith and direction.  But when we have a good guide, even the most unlikely person can make the journey, and succeed.  For me, Babaji and now Mataji are my sacred guides.  With their encouragement and modelling, I am making progress.    It reminds me of an often spoken quote, which seems like an apt way to conclude;

“When God pushes you to the edge of difficulty trust him fully because two things can happen.
Either He’ll catch you when you fall, or He will teach you how to fly”.

-Gurmeet Dhillon

Every morning we perform the ritual of prepping our bodies to engage in the public arena. On autopilot, we breeze through the ritual bathing, combing, brushing and dressing. As we proceed, we focus intently on each segment of hair, teeth, skin and clothing, and then with a quick glance we view the whole. One thing we don’t do during this ritual is to look at our true self with a good solid look into the eyes, the gateway to the soul. We make eye contact with other people, but we don’t make eye contact with ourselves. Somehow it is uncomfortable looking into one’s own eyes for any length of time.

Yet, if we do dare to stare, we fear the reflection of a fractured self, as if viewing our self with a broken mirror. The broken mirror distorts our reflection, making us appear somewhat unsettling, as we see ourselves strangely looking back. The feeling is unsettling because, with an honest analysis, we know our own faults and problems. Admitting to all of our shortcomings presents to us a multiple personality person. Just who are we? It seems quite perplexing to determine our true identity.

Wouldn’t it be grand to look our self in the eye and know exactly who and what we are? Yet instead we see a fractured self, but in reality we are whole and one with all. The key to this viewpoint of “Oneness” is revealed by the Satguru with the message of “Know One, Believe in One and Become One”. Once we have taken the fundamental step of God-realization, then we move on to have faith in God by building a relationship. Becoming very close to God finalizes the effort, as we become one with the One.

There is a final step that Satguru has given us – Self Realization through God Realization. This follow-on step is the way we finally meet our self, just like looking into the mirror and seeing one image. One image that you know is you. The process of knowing God allows us to know the self. We are not the body, but we are truly the soul housed in the body. We must relate to God with the soul and realizing the soul is all that matters, because that is our true identity.

Daring to stare at one’s self challenges us to accept our faults, to own up to them and to resolve them. The ability to accept and resolve comes with the knowledge of God and of the self. The empowerment is overwhelming once God is revealed and a serious acceptance and following occurs. Without the true connection to God, our life takes the course of the billions walking in darkness – i.e. the blind leading the blind.

Connecting to God takes a keen awareness of God’s presence all around us. Awareness is how we focus on anything important to us. That is how we are able to achieve success in our family, education and professional work. The same principle applies when relating to God. For without awareness and focus, the connection lies dormant. That is why we must remember God at all times and stay connected, so that we can look our self squarely in the eyes and know our true self – the soul.

 – Dan Slebodnik Washington D.C.

A few weeks ago I was attending a lecture on mindfulness in medicine. The physician spoke about a number of things concerning the topic. One topic in particular struck a chord with me. It was when she asked all of the attendees to stand up, raise one arm up, pointing our index finger to the sky (I urge you to perform the action I am describing as you read this text).

She then asked us to draw a clock with the raised arm, moving our index finger from the 12 o’ clock position to 3, 6, 9, and then back to 12. As we traced the shape of a clock with our fingers in the sky she asked us to slowly lower our arms, but continue to draw the clock.

Literally a few moments ago, we were looking up at our fingers moving clockwise just like the hands of a clock. As my arm was lowered and I looked down at my index finger still moving, it now appeared to be moving counterclockwise.

The physician used this example to illustrate the beauty of different perspectives. While looking up, our fingers were moving clockwise, but as the arm was lowered, the finger now appeared to be moving counterclockwise. The direction in which the finger was moving had not changed, but what had changed was our perspective. Just as no two snowflakes are the same, no two perceived perspectives about a situation will ever be the same.

We perceive the world through our inherent biases, filtering what we see of the world through the various schools of thought we develop over the course of our lives. It is the cumulative effect of our experiences that helps us to perceive what is right and wrong. Often people find themselves in the midst of a conflict. In situations such as these, it is easy to blame the other person, regardless of how right or wrong he may have been. In situations such as these, it is important to always consider what drove the other person to perform their respective action. Indeed, if you are the one who may have wronged another, it is even more important to be self-aware enough to analyze one’s own actions and intentions, and conversely consider the impact of those actions on other people.

Lately, I have been revisiting one of my favorite books, The Forty Rules of Love, in which Elif Shafak writes, “most of the problems of the world stem from linguistic mistakes and simple misunderstandings. Don’t ever take words at face value. When you step into the zone of love, language as we know it becomes obsolete. That which cannot be put into words can only be grasped through silence.”

As tolerance and love depreciate, conflicts continue to grow around us. We are quick to judge and seldom are we able to give the benefit of doubt. Right and wrong are such relative terms, influenced by our current state of mind, life experiences, upbringing and so much more.

Just as there are two sides to a coin, there are always two sides to a story. The next time I am put in a difficult situation, I hope I am mindful of my thoughts, considering the other person’s intent, words and actions, to proceed accordingly.

    – Akanksha Mehla – Toronto, Canada

It is said that selfless service (seva) alone is the antidote to duality. But what exactly is selfless service, and what is it that we mean by duality. How can the former negate the latter? Let us investigate.

Selfless service (seva) is the rising above of the material self and being in touch with the real Self (Formless God), in which there is no trace of selfishness. It is without prejudice and discrimination. It is likened to a flower which provides its fragrance to all asunder. It matters not if the recipient is a king, an itinerant, a poet or a doctor. The fact that he is close-by, a neighbour, is enough. Defining such a neighbour is the hallmark of duality, and the key to one of the greatest commandments – ‘love thy neighbour as you love thyself’. The flower is without bias; it serves from its own true nature, without harbouring a feeling of doer-ship. For the flower, there is no pride in giving freely. On the contrary, it is aware it cannot contain its fragrance, which it disperses freely. It loses nothing by sharing its fragrance. In fact, it becomes renowned by spreading its beauty. Such is its beauty that it is glorified in art, philosophy and Scripture. So much so that not even thorns and blemishes can take away its magnificence.

Duality, by contrast, is the mind-created labelling system, making you believe that you are separate from everything else. It divides all that is into opposites, e.g. you and me, day and night, right and wrong. It is this duality that shows up when consciousness – the awareness of the Self – forgets itself and collapses into the finite, conditioned mind. It is a closed belief, separating oneself from others. It distorts and deranges the view of reality.  

Unlike the selfless flower, humans choose to serve the extremes of duality, with a strong sense of doer-ship. They serve either the powerfully affluent or the poor and struggling. The mind, drawn to the powerfully affluent, wishes to be the same. Even when showing mercy to the poor and the struggling, the mind still carries the ego of doer-ship, limiting the scope of compassion. Fuelled by duality, the mind is fixated on ‘how about me and my desires and wants’. Those who suffer from high levels of anxiety and depression are often so self-absorbed that they are unable to think about serving others without a reason.

However, those who serve without an agenda are known to be joyous and content, even if this amounts to quite simply giving a glass of water or opening the door. These may seem like random acts of kindness, but there is nothing random about them. It is a purposeful way of living. The purpose is to act beyond the confines of worldly duality, and to be free from the doings, which plague the mind in a ‘carrot before the donkey’ syndrome. Simply break the stick and throw away the carrot. You don’t need it.

Seva, which is beyond the body, is unrestrictive. It serves one and all. Its focus is not the body. Through the vision of the boundless (gyan), service too becomes boundless. The knower of the Formless (the gyani) no longer focuses on strengths or weaknesses, powerful or the powerless. He transcends all differences; actions become harmonious and the feeling of ‘pushing water uphill’ no longer prevails. It’s a natural state of acceptance, which allows one-self to fall in humility. No effort is required in such falling. The battle only exists in climbing the ladder of ego.

The Oneness gathering (satsang) is a place where all worldly considerations are rejected, and where service for humans is truly practiced, irrespective of their being poor or rich, able or disabled, black or white, weak or strong. Serving humans for being humans is only possible with a non-dualistic approach. Being aware of the fact that the doer is the Formless, ego is shed and bliss is attained. Just as the river serves without seeking to ask the boatman’s culture, colour or class. Those engaged in true seva do not consider any worldly deliberations in serving humans.

This undiluted feeling of service is inspired by the vision of gyan, which the Teacher of Truth (Satguru) provides. Serving humans as humans is rare; it is the epitome of humanness. Seva can be done anywhere, but in the Oneness gatherings (satsang), it is unique. It is a place where everyone who attends understands that bodies are not what we focus upon. It is the Formless that serves, and is the Formless itself that is served! The duality of the mind is dismissed, and humanity in oneness is clearly seen. It may seem somewhat strange to a mind that is still stuck in dualistic thinking. It gives rise to many questions – ‘why should I serve someone who appears to be normal in every way; why should I give water to someone who can get it himself. All these questions are common in a deluded mind. The mind which is aware of the Formless perceives only the Formless, and knows no other and serves no other.

Such is the vision the Teacher of Truth provides and allows every moment to be fulfilled with beauty. For those who serve the Formless, are served by the universe. The moment the spirit of seva is embraced, the mind begins to serve. The hankering for ‘me, me and me’ ends and merges into YOU, the Formless. Duality, the separation of the self, is subdued by the Formless, giving rise to the Self, which becomes instrumental in providing selfless seva.

      – Surjit Dhami, Cannock, UK

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In the East, we are often greeted with folded hands with a humble ‘Namaste’ or ‘Namaskar’. What does it mean? It means that the divinity – the spark of life animating all existence – within I, myself, recognizes and honours the divinity within you, yourself. In so acknowledging, recognising and honouring each other, we automatically and spontaneously align ourselves with God.

Such a process, on a subtle level, amounts to passing on a benediction – “God bless you”. We can see this in the simple act of sneezing. It is said according to ancient beliefs that sneezing temporarily results in the loss of consciousness. This makes the individual vulnerable and as superstition would have it, open to evil thoughts for a brief span of time. The greeting or the invocation not only dispels evil, but also helps to return the individual to self-control.

When we are thirsty, what we really need to quench our thirst, is water. Other drinks, though made from water, do not fully quench our thirst because they are not 100% water. Likewise, although material assets – be they a new car, a bigger house, or a new phone – can grant us temporary joy, they cannot provide lasting, true happiness. Indeed, for true happiness, we have to connect to the everlasting source of love and abundant joy – i.e. the divine light – from which everything originates and into which everything merges.

With the said divine light we are able to see clearly. For example, when a stick in a glass of water appears to be bent, an ignorant person would declare it to be crooked, or blame it on poor eye sight. But if you ask a student of science, he will tell you that the stick is neither bent nor is the sight defective. It is simply a product of refraction. This knowledge of science makes the understanding complete.

Similarly, Satguru (the spiritual mentor) does exactly this. He removes the veil of ignorance from our eyes and shows us the Truth in all its glory. In seeing with new eyes, we are able to observe and realise as to what is real and permanent, and what is false and impermanent. We focus our attention on that which is everlasting, all-powerful and eternal, and we divert our attention from things and possessions that are here today and gone tomorrow.

The spiritual mentor, through the sharing of divine light, shows us that this very body, which we think we own, is not really ours. Science confirms that our body renews itself every day by shedding old cells and creating new ones. So much so, that an average person totally replaces his old cells for new ones, every seven years. This means that a fifty-year old man will have undergone a complete body change seven times over. The body he was born with is no longer there. What is, therefore, seemingly real and eternally real, are two different things.

The divine light helps us in this regard, allowing us to become fully aware. For being aware at any given moment, is to be fully present and conscious of what is real. That is why the play on words is sometimes used – realise, through real eyes! What is real is only understood and realisable in a human form. All our Holy Scriptures testify and emphasise the importance of human birth for attaining redemption.  However, the human form, according to saints and seers, is not enough. We need to be not just embodied as human, but live as complete human beings.  This is only possible by imbibing and manifesting human virtues, which make us humane.

Our sacred texts exhort that spirituality dawns in life only after direct communion with the spiritual self – your true self, soul, or pure consciousness. This, however, is only facilitated by the grace of a bonafide Guru, who bestows the brahm gyan on the seeker. This brahm gyan is divine light, giving rise at once to both humane and divine qualities which accompany the individual both here, in this life, and hereafter, in the afterlife.

So when the seeker is spiritually thirsty, the mentor does not beat around the bush. He does not talk about the properties of water or where and when it is available. He hands over the glass of water and the thirst is instantly quenched.

Therefore, until awareness or divine light dawns, one lives in ignorance. Contrary to popular belief, ignorance is not bliss. Rather we suffer a very confusing and unfulfilled life experience, struggling to find meaning, purpose or direction. If we did this on any other journey, we would have wasted precious moments to really enjoy our time. Why is it any different in the journey of human life?

The first step towards living in light (or enlightenment, as it is commonly described) is to let go of all that is known. Prior to enlightenment, we have not differentiated the real from the unreal, so all the understanding we have accumulated is based on false pretenses.  Letting go of what we think we know, makes us open to listening and reflecting on that which is real.  This reality is divinity, the source of eternal wisdom.

Divine light is our divine right – may we all be blessed by it.

-Shiva Rane, Glasgow, Scotland

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In the heart of all realization is discovery. When one is face to face with the divine self – one’s very own heart – a door is opened to a realm hitherto unknown.  We look upon the divine self, seemingly for the very first time. I would like to say more about the divine self and share my experience of how one may realize it.

Your own efforts

A pre-requisite to realization, is a desire to know who you really are, what you always have been and what you will always be. When this desire is so strong that realization becomes tantamount to life, and ignorance feels like death, as an aspirant you will try your utmost to awaken yourself through spiritual means. Efforts may commonly be channeled through meditation, chanting mantras, reciting prayers or reading religious scriptures or spiritual books. It may be there is no lack of dedication on your part, yet something is still missing. Perhaps you feel you are going round and round in circles, without an end in sight. At this point, which comes sooner or later, you will either carry on with the journey or discontinue. If you have read between the lines, or considered your meditative experiences deeply, you will become aware of a third option – a most valuable one – to seek a Spiritual Teacher.

The Spiritual Inquiry

As a spiritual aspirant, you will have many questions about the path ahead. Firstly, where does the path start? Where does the path end? Are you on a path, or is your journey yet to begin?  Is there really someone who can help you discover your true self – if so, who and where can this person be found? How will you separate the authentic Guru, from a charlatan? Is it really true to believe ‘I am God’ and so is every living being? Will you always be thinking of these questions, or will they culminate into realization? What will this realization feel like? How will you know when you have attained it? Having persevered in your spiritual practice, reading and meditation some insight will certainly have been achieved, because all of these endeavors bear fruit of one kind or another.  You may have had glimpses of ‘Samadhi’, but fall short of this becoming a lasting experience.  Some answers will have arrived, and many more questions will have arisen. Progress beyond this state is always liable to stall until you ‘see’ the reality of yourself.  This mirror in which you must eventually look, is that of the Spiritual Teacher, or Satguru.  He or she will not appear before you, until you are ready for a higher learning. Whatever else you have done has been preparation for this encounter – it has swelled your appetite, but the hunger to know remains great.  The tipping point, is when the hunger becomes too much to contain.

The Satguru

To recognise Satguru, you must know the characteristics by which this he or she is identified. Satguru is the embodiment of timeless wisdom. Indeed, Satguru is a pure mirror for the spiritual aspirant. In the beginning, Satguru shows you the subtle ego – that aspect of yourself, which you thought you had got rid of. Then, Satguru shows you very directly that you are Formless, and all that exists, is part of the Formless whole. In this forthright teaching, your subtle ego may cling to what it already knows and resist the reality that is becoming manifest. However, if you address your questions to Satguru, the answers will be found. It all depends on how quickly you can empty yourself of egoic concepts. If you are stuck in the ego-mind, it will lead you away from the present moment, and you may never really understand Satguru’s guidance. If, however, in Satguru’s presence, you begin the inquiry with an open-mind, with a single focus towards the Truth, then answers will emerge naturally. It is in these moments of discovery that the acceleration towards spiritual liberation – i.e. enlightenment – speeds up.

Satguru will help you find your own answers.  He or she will ask that you serve others, listen to enlightened discourses within the company of the realized, and redirect your meditations to the Formless reality which has been shared with you. In this process the ego-mind reduces, wisdom begins to flourish and a state of perpetual Samadhi becomes established.  Where progress became stunted before, you will feel the path moving you forwards, like a river that is drawn towards its source.

Discovering the Self within

Once your conceptual questions and search for answers is satiated, you will enter a moment of clear seeing. In this purity, you will rest completely in the present moment. You will feel totally in oneness, centered on your own presence. You will witness the divine spirit around you, and more importantly, within you. You will look at the trees that you passed by yesterday with ‘new’ eyes.  You will see them not in the perception of yesterday, but in the perception of now – with your senses duly cleansed. Looking at yourself and the world at large with newfound discovery, you will fully appreciate everything. Not only that, but you will connect with everything as if it were an extension of your own being. You will discover the aliveness within everything and feel rejuvenated by it. This is what I refer to as Satguru’s grace in action.

Awakening

The beginning of this whole spiritual journey, which led eventually to the door of Satguru, is attributed to the fact that you had some sort of awakening. It may have been a momentary experience of oneness, inter-connectivity with all, connection with the higher-being, or dropping of the body-mind association. But with the world being so alluring, your awakening, your awareness, will necessarily have broken down again. What happens through Satguru’s revelation, and the path that he provides, is a longevity to the bliss, gratitude, and love in your life. The awakening is no longer fleeting, or an experience you once touched.  It becomes an enduring insight, which cannot be shaken. It becomes unwavering awareness.

Once here, you will feel compelled to share this joy with others. If you can maintain the nobility of who you are, having moved from awakening to enlightenment, you are in for a great and wondrous expedition with your true self. Life begins anew.

Enlightenment

When you allow Satguru’s grace to consume your spiritual aspiration and allow the timeless wisdom to find space in your heart, your very nature will be filled with spiritual virtues like compassion, love, acceptance, gratitude, trust and forgiveness. You will not need to cultivate these virtues, because you are literally flowing in the Formless – the source of all. You will no longer feel separate from your essence, as you will know deeply that you are it – “That Thou Art” or “Tat Twam Asi” as the sacred Upanishads tell us. Infact, only the Formless is.

It is in this happening that the ego dissolves and with it any concepts that no longer serve you. The Satguru that you perceive as the embodiment of wisdom also dissolves away, but the timeless wisdom remains – whether you are physically in proximity to Satguru, or not.  You feel the Formless, everwhere.  Bliss, equanimity and contentment is now the state of your being, at all times. This is the discovery, for which you needed to devote your every last biological cell, in the desire to be enlightened. For, it is only when you are willing to lose everything, that Satguru’s grace finds you.

-Rahul Singh, Atlanta, USA

The sun is a candle; the candle is the sun,
The intensity of your light can mesmerise and stun;
If the flame were a river, I’d get lost in its flow;
My soul’s on fire, so don’t frost it with snow;
If humanity were a rose, we’d have the same stem;
There’d be no “us”, and there would be no “them”
The Earth isn’t Human, yet we find its fault line;
See the light within, and let the vaults shine;
Strengthen the world that the dark tries to weaken,
Be the light, the inferno in a beacon,
Harmony of humanity is what there’s demand for;
Love, peace and unity, is what we stand for;
Good intentions, are like embers of the lobe
Let them fly across, to all the members of the globe
 
The Satguru guides you towards this warmness,
And in an instant, shows you the Formless,
The Knowledge is a key, and it seeks-the-locks!
Be open and free, this is your equinox!
The darkness is losing, and furious at the sight;
That even the shadows are curious of this light;
If you think your wire’s torn, just realise your higher form;
You’re the light of the world; your brilliance, a fire storm;

Flicker and flare,
Illumine the air,
Flash and blaze,
Your light’ll amaze,
Spark and ignite,
Turn dark into light…
 
Flicker, Flare, Flash, blaze, kindle, ignite and spark
Wherever you go, you can light up the dark
Inspire every soul, to be higher is the goal
In your desire to be whole, you’ll see the fire in your soul,
Like a lighthouse, illumine the whole sea
You shine from within, and this light you must be!

                                                     – Gurdeep Roopra

Why are we talking about forgiveness – forgiveness of ourselves and others?

Speaking from my own experience, when I became conscious (or woke up, if you like), I became incredibly aware. It was as if the covers had been lifted from my eyes and then HD technicolor and wrap-around stereo sound were thrown in on top. There was also a period (seemingly unending) when I became super-aware of not only my own shortcomings, which had now been claimed and named, but also everyone else’s as well.  Like hundreds of tiny reflective mirrors and echoes, I was noticing everything in a state of total awareness.

I could never un-know or un-see any of this stuff from now on in.  Furthermore, I was advised to accept everything – exactly as it was – not trying to change anyone or anything else, apart from myself of course. I was to stay calm and accept myself exactly as I’d been, how I had become, and even how I still was. Added to this acceptance, I had to be prepared to forgive myself and forgive others. There are surely many ways to approach forgiveness of self and others, but one approach I would like to share is this: 

Fear binds the world; forgiveness sets it free. 

This quote is the subtitle for the chapter Forgiving the Past in Life Loves You, by Louise Hay and Robert Holden. In this chapter, the writers discuss why some people cannot hear or will not accept that they are loved by life. Louise explains that some people will not believe these words because of guilt.

Guilt is described as a loss of innocence. It is what we experience when we have forgotten the basic truth – that we are eminently and inherently loveable. When we lose sight of this, our feelings of unworthiness cause us to feel unlovable, and we often behave in unloving ways towards others.

Louise explains that her most important work has been to help people to heal guilt. She writes, feeling guilty about what you did, or what someone did to you, does not make the past go away. Guilt does not make the past better. When you feel guilt or believe that you are unworthy, you should take it as a sign that you need to heal…

She tells us that this healing is done through Forgiveness. She explains that, until you love your inner child, you will have no idea of how loveable you are, and that you will not see how much life loves you. To the question from Robert, how do we love the inner child, Louise replies, the same way you love your adult self…by ceasing all self-judgment.

She goes on to tell us, loving the inner child is about forgiving ourselves for our loss of innocence and loss of goodness. The truth is we all did the best we could with what we knew at every stage of our childhood. And yet, we may still be judging ourselves and punishing ourselves for not having done it better, for making mistakes, for abandoning ourselves, for upsetting others and for not being a good enough boy or girl. Until we forgive ourselves, we will be trapped in a prison of righteous resentment. Forgiveness is the only way out of this prison. Forgiveness sets you free.

Unsurprisingly, Louise Hay recommends a mirror work meditation, which I share below: Sitting in front of a mirror, place your hands over your heart. Take a deep breath. See yourself through the eyes of love, and speak to yourself with love: 

I am loveable and life loves me.

I forgive myself for all the times I’ve been

Afraid that I am not loveable.

I am loveable and life loves me.

I forgive myself for judging myself and

For not believing in my goodness.

I am loveable and life loves me.

I forgive myself for feeling unworthy and

For believing I don’t deserve love.

I am loveable and life loves me.

I forgive myself for all the times I’ve

Criticized and attacked myself.

I am loveable and life loves me.

I forgive myself for rejecting and

Giving up on myself.

I am loveable and life loves me.

I forgive myself for doubting myself and

For not trusting in me.

I am loveable and life loves me.

I forgive myself for my mistakes.

I am loveable and life loves me.

I ask for forgiveness so that I can learn.

I accept forgiveness so that I can grow.

I am loveable and life loves me.

                                                                              –  Caroline Gibbs, Solihull, UK

Even the sharpest minds cannot remember everything. Indeed at times, we just want to forget things. Memory is elusive. We regularly try to recall a forgotten someone or something, with a great effort to keep someone in mind.  When young, we work to build our memory. When we are old, it’s a challenge to keep our memory. Our memory, which keeps us stable and connected to people and the world at large, provides us with the ability to manage our life over the long haul.    

Having been involved in an accident, imagine waking up in a hospital bed. There is a group of people surrounding you. They are all smiling because you are awake, appearing well. Not recognizing any one of them in the room, you watch them. The joy on their faces is lost as you ask the question – who are you?  Confusion sets in for everybody.  Stability for you and your family is now in question. 

Why this sorrow, you may well ask? It is because your family, who knows you more than you know yourself, cannot get over the fact that you don’t feel any connection with them.  After all, you have a whole history of involvement with these people, sharing many a joy and sorrow. Their desire to connect is more than yours, because they remember you. Memory loss is real; it can be brought on by physical or emotional trauma.

Now imagine, you are born into this human life with a memory loss. You have no memory of your beloved One – God! God looks at you with the greatest desire to connect with you, for He knows you way better than you know yourself. I can imagine God being frustrated, because He wants to be in your life just like your family. Although this memory loss is planned by God, our first goal in life is to re-discover Him.

Before this discovery takes place, life needs to span out.  We may well have more down-days than up- days. We may not be able to figure out who we are and what we are doing here. The very fortunate few will meet someone special, who can help them discover God. This someone special is the Satguru, who enables us to remember God.

This is the moment when the amnesic family member is so full of joy, for his memory has been restored. The family cannot wait to continue their relationship that they have always shared with the individual.  God, similarly, is full of joy, as you truly become fully awake! The fact that you now remember God, your life begins to have meaning.

But why is God so happy? This is because each and every relationship God has with someone is of the utmost importance. He has so much to give, but more importantly, He gives us a way of life that only produces peace and love.

So after having discovered God, we must always continue to remember Him. We must do this when we get up in the morning, throughout the enfolding day, and when we lay down to sleep. Just as a loving family member is always in our thoughts, God too should always be remembered. As subtle as God is, the Satguru helps us not only to find Him, but also leads us on to the path of righteousness.

God says – remember me, for remembering God is an invaluable gift that the Satguru introduces to us. Accepting the Satguru is tantamount to accepting the Godly life. And living as God is accepting eternal life embodied in peace, love and harmony. This is why God says – remember me – and why we must remember.

             – Daniel Slebodnik – Washington D.C.

The visit of Her Holiness Mata Savinder Hardev Ji to the UK is something I will always remember as a very beautiful and humbling experience. It served many purposes, firstly and most importantly to spread love, peace and joy. It gave us an opportunity to meet first- hand the beautiful spirit of Satguru of the time, and for the chance to bow at her feet and give grateful thanks for facilitating our meeting with Nirankar, the Formless Lord.

It was also an opportunity to be reminded of the complete and total devotion of Satguru to spreading the message of peace, love and humility. We cannot fail to be humbled in the presence of one who has given her entire life to the work of spreading the message of Nirankar. Satguru’s work will never be done, there will be no retirement, no slowing down, no slacking in the constant struggle to bring the message of peace and love to the world. And we should take inspiration from this example, be reinvigorated to continue our efforts to help spread that message, no matter how difficult that may be sometimes.

There are times when we will speak of Nirankar to family, friends and people we meet and we may be encouraged by their positive response, their genuine interest and their enquiring questions. Others may be polite in their responses but less accepting of what we are saying and then there will be those who are adamant that we are talking nonsense, there is no God, and ask us, ‘where is the proof?’ And although this may feel challenging, it is an understandable response. We are taught to question things from an early age, to look for evidence, to seek a scientific answer to the meaning of life. Challenges to what we believe should always be responded to with love and compassion.  After all, no-one has ever been brought to enlightenment through hostile words.

When questioned about proof of God, I like to recall this lovely story;

In a mother’s womb were two babies. One asked the other: “Do you believe in life after delivery?” The other replied, “Why, of course. There has to be something after delivery. Maybe we are here to prepare ourselves for what we will be later.”. “Nonsense” said the first. “There is no life after delivery. What kind of life would that be?”. The second said, “I don’t know, but there will be more light than here. Maybe we will walk with our legs and eat from our mouths. Maybe we will have other senses that we can’t understand now.”. The first replied, “That is absurd. Walking is impossible. And eating with our mouths? Ridiculous! The umbilical cord supplies nutrition and everything we need. But the umbilical cord is so short. Life after delivery is to be logically excluded.”. The second insisted, “Well I think there is something and maybe it’s different than it is here. Maybe we won’t need this physical cord anymore.”. The first replied, “Nonsense. And moreover, if there is life, then why has no-one has ever come back from there? Delivery is the end of life, and in the after-delivery there is nothing but darkness and silence and oblivion. It takes us nowhere.”. “Well, I don’t know,” said the second, “but certainly we will meet Mother and she will take care of us.”. The first replied “Mother? You actually believe in Mother? That’s laughable. If Mother exists then where is she now?”. The second said, “She is all around us. We are surrounded by her. We are of her. It is in her that we live. Without her this world would not and could not exist.”
Said the first: “Well I don’t see her, so it is only logical that she doesn’t exist.”. To which the second replied, “Sometimes, when you’re in silence and you focus and you really listen, you can perceive her presence, and you can hear Her loving voice, calling down from above”.

This is an analogy of course, but I know that I have met ‘Mother’, when I experienced Gyan. But rather than meeting for the first time, this was a reuniting, a coming back to a Mother of whom I had always been part of.

Like all relationships, that with our Mother is open to fluctuation. When we first meet, we are close, we rely on Mother for everything, food, shelter, physical and emotional support and wellbeing. We do not question, as we accept that Mother knows best and has our best interests at heart. We are totally devoted to Mother as she is to us. She will teach us to be kind and generous to others, to share what we have with other children, to offer to help others and to say sorry if we hurt someone – have you noticed how easy an apology comes to a child and how quickly he or she forgives? A child will quickly forget arguments and get back to playfulness with their friends.

But as we grow and become more self-sufficient, we rely less on Mother. We’re still aware of her and how important she is but other things begin to take priority. Friends, work colleagues, having fun, all become more important to us. We may begin to question her advice and guidance, insisting that we know best. We spend more time with friends, some who are good for us and sometimes others who have a less favourable impact on our thinking and actions. Our focus may turn away from the security of family and ‘Mother’ and turn instead to things which we perceive as being more important – owning ‘things’, being seen as successful, being the best, and we get wrapped up in ourselves. We may become less inclined to forgive and less likely to share what we have, always looking to get more for ourselves. We may do things that our Mother would not approve of and all the time, Mother is watching us make mistakes, watching us drift further from her and in some cases the bond may seem to have become completely broken.

But there will come a time when we begin to question life, what is its purpose, who are we and why are we here. We begin to look for answers to questions. We may have life experiences that make us feel vulnerable or scared. We question the world around us and the direction it is going in. We may look back to simpler times when we were sure of ourselves, when we knew that we were loved without question, when we were supported, nurtured and comforted by Mother. And we rekindle that relationship with Mother and discover that it is, and always was, the most important relationship of all. And despite the mistakes we may have made, our poor life choices, the path we have trodden, Mother has still loved us all along. She has waited patiently and hopefully, for us to return to her with fresh eyes, with a new understanding, with renewed love. She was always there, we just lost sight of her for a time.

I pray that we all cherish and value the love of Mother, which is also the love of Niranakar. May we stay forever close, at peace with ourselves and the world around us. May Satguru Mata Sudiskha Ji, who is giving us the benevolent light of Motherhood today, bless us with with courage, wisdom, love, compassion and humility.

-Maggie Fletcher
UK