Radio Ruhaniyat: March 24, 2018

Hello everyone and welcome to another episode of Radio Ruhaniyat, in which we are talking about discrimination.

We often feel that the most essential part of socializing is talking about other people, which often leads to gossiping behind someone’s back or spreading rumors. We do it to other people, but when it is done to us, is when we realize how drastic the psychological consequences can be on someone’s mind.

Once upon a time an old man spread rumors that his neighbor was a thief. As a result, the young man was arrested. Days later the young man was proven innocent. After been released he sued the old man for wrongly accusing him. In court the old man told the judge: 'they were just comments, didn't harm anyone.'

The judge, before passing sentence on the case, told the old man: 'write all the things you said about him on a piece of paper. Cut them up and on the way home, throw the pieces of paper out. Tomorrow, come back to hear the sentence.'

The next day, the judge told the old man: 'before receiving the sentence, you will have to go out and gather all the pieces of paper that you threw out yesterday.'
The old man said: 'I can't do that! The wind spread them and I won't know where to find them.'

The judge then replied: 'the same way, simple comments may destroy the honor of a man to such an extent that one is not able to fix it. If you can't speak well of someone, rather don't say anything.

'Let’s all be masters of our mouths, so that we won't be slaves of our words.'

It’s very easy to let our mouths run. We often get carried away and don’t even realize when we took the evil route of stabbing people’s characters.

“Aaja tenu ik gal dassan, aggey dassi na” – this common phrase in the Punjabi language means:
“Come I’ll tell you something but don’t tell anyone else”…... a song by Gurdas Mann called “Chugliyaan”(Backbiting)……always caught my attention and usually set me thinking. It is a common sight for us to see people gossiping. Usually, if someone does not know how to keep on “carrying a conversation” they revert to “GOSSIP”. Gossip is one thing, which will always get everyone’s attention. The one, who gossips, is no doubt a culprit, but the one who shows interest in it, inadvertently becomes a shareholder in the ‘crime’. Even if the “gossip” is true, friends always try to ‘COVER” for each other, not showcase it. Always remember that when we point one finger at someone, four fingers point back at us. If we backbite someone, chances are that we might be criticized four times more. Somewhere, amidst the act of “gossiping”, we are also revealing our character. The one who listens to us, no matter how much interest he or she shows in the conversation, knows deep within, what our character is like when we stoop to such actions. By Gossiping, WE MAKE IT KNOWN THAT WE CANNOT BE “TRUSTED”.

It sometimes becomes important to discuss other people’s behavior when it is done for ‘administrative’ purposes. If a colleague has to report an employee’s actions, it is justified so that future adversities can be avoided. The same applies to our social environment. But doing it just for the thrill of it is an absolute misconduct. We face situations all the time, in which we are trying to figure out how to handle a certain dilemma. The call is always: Do the right thing; keeping our emotions aside.

God gave us TWO eyes: so that we can see the GOOD & the BAD and then we let our brain analyze the two: keep the good and leave the bad. He gave us TWO ears: to hear the good and hear the bad. Then our brain determines what to keep; and what to leave. He gave us two nostrils: smell the good and enjoy it, and smell the bad and know to trash it. The good & the bad go hand in hand for us to realize the value of the “GOOD”.
BUT GOD JUST GAVE US ONE TONGUE & ONE MOUTH: Only to SPEAK THE GOOD!
THE OPTION TO SAY THE BAD WAS NEVER GIVEN TO US!!!!

A peaceful and tranquil person gives happiness to the atmosphere. The tongue is the first and the foremost factor that determines our inner caliber. How we speak and how much nectar drips from our tongue when we speak, also reveals what kind of a human being we are.

And always remember: “SPEAK IN SUCH A WAY THAT OTHERS LOVE TO LISTEN TO YOU…..
AND LISTEN IN SUCH A WAY THAT OTHERS LOVE TO SPEAK TO YOU….”

-Until next time, this is Preet Sahi reminding you to Stay Spiritual!

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