Tomorrow Never Comes by Nisha Kalwani, Singapore

Tomorrow Never Comes

by Nisha Kalwani, Singapore

The only survivor of a shipwreck was washed up on a small, uninhabited island. He prayed feverishly for God to rescue him. Every day he scanned the horizon for help, but none seemed forthcoming.

Once, there lived a child who had all the great things in life. However, he never once stopped to think about how wonderful his life was. He spent his childhood quarrelling with his siblings. When he wanted to apologize for his misbehaviour, he always said to himself, "never mind, I'll do it tomorrow."

When he grew up a little, school was a very nice place for him. He made lots of friends and was very happy. However, he never appreciated these joys of life. It all came so naturally that he felt it was becoming a permanent part of his life. One day, he had a great fight with his best friend. Though he knew he was in the wrong, he never took the initiative to apologize or make up with his best friend. His excuse was, "Never mind, I'll do it tomorrow."

Hence, sometime later, that best friend was no longer part of his life. Even though he still saw his friend around, they didn't even greet each other. But that was all right to him, because he still had other friends to spend great time with.

When he graduated, work kept him very busy. He found himself a very pretty and virtuous girlfriend and she soon became his constant companion. He made himself busy with work, because he wanted to get promoted to the highest position in the shortest time possible. He sure missed his old friends but he never got down to keep in touch with them: not even a phone call. He always said, "I'm so tired, I'll catch up with them tomorrow." It didn't affect him after a while because he began socialising with his colleagues. Thus, as time passed by, he forgot to call his friends.

After he got married and had kids, he worked even harder in order to bring comfort to his family. He stopped buying flowers and gifts for his wife and did not remember special dates like his wife's birthdays and his wedding anniversary. It didn't matter to him as he knew his wife always understood him and never blamed him for it. Of course, he felt guilty at times and wanted very much to have a chance to say "I love you" to his wife. But he never got down to doing it. His excuse was "never mind, I'll do it tomorrow for sure".

He never made it to his children's birthday parties due to his meetings at work. He assumed it was fine as his wife was at least present there. The children began to drift away from him, as they never really spent time with their father.

One day, disaster struck when his wife met with an accident. He was in the middle of a meeting when it took place. Failing to understand that it was an important call from the hospital, he arrived by his wife's death bed only to see her on the verge of death. Before he could mouth the words "I love you", his wife passed away.

The man became depressed and tried to find comfort in his children. However, he soon realized that his children did not want to communicate with him. They grew up and had their own families. Nobody cared and loved this man who, in the past, hadn't spared time to give love to people around him.

He moved into the best Old Folk's Home, which provided excellent service with the money he had saved for his 50th, 60th, and 70th anniversary celebrations. All the money that was intended for holidays with his wife went into paying for his stay in the Old Folk's Home.

From that time until his deathbed, there were only old folks and nurses taking care of him. He now felt the loneliness that he had never felt before. Upon his deathbed, he told a nurse, " If only I had realized this earlier. .?" And he died with tears upon his cheek.

This story has taught me numerous lessons of life.

Firstly, we are so preoccupied with the fast paced life that we neglect the fact that every moment of life is precious. We therefore adopt the habit of leaving things to tomorrow. For example, we leave spirituality to tomorrow. Many feel that God knowledge and spirituality can be left to old age. However, we forget that no one has seen tomorrow. No one can say with conviction that tomorrow will surely come because tomorrow is not in our hands. It's in the hands of our creator, God. Therefore God knowledge has to be attained now, in the present.

The second lesson I learnt is that we have to stop worrying too much about our future. Sometimes we get so caught up with planning for the future that we fail to cherish the present. Just like the man who planned for his 50th, 60th, and 70th anniversary celebrations lost all the moments of joy he could have received in the celebrations of the wedding anniversaries when his wife was alive. This again tells us that tomorrow never comes and we have to live for the present.

Coming to our discussion topic on love, this story made me realize that there is no perfect moment to express love. In fact expressing love makes the moment perfect. Sometimes, we feel love for a person and want to seek forgiveness for the hurt we caused him/her. Then our ego comes in the way and we fail to make the moment perfect by expressing love in the form of an apology to the person.

The final lesson that I learnt is that several times, deep within our hearts, we feel love for our wife, children, friends and relatives. Unfortunately, we fail to express it. Love is not to be locked in our hearts. It is to be expressed and given generously. In my opinion, the best way of expressing love is through seva (selfless service). Seva can only be done out of unconditional love and sincerity in our hearts. Seva has to start at home before it is extended to our neighbours. We don't have to do big things, just small things with great love.

I pray to Nirankar (formless God) that He may bless us all with the ability to express sincere and unconditional love through seva to all those around us.

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